When we become aware that we do not have to escape our pains, but that
we can mobilize them into a common search for life, those very pains are
transformed from expressions of despair into signs of hope.
"Many people don't think they are loved, or held safe, and so when suffering comes they see it as an affirmation of their worthlessness. The great question of ministry and the spiritual life is to learn to live our brokenness under the blessing and not the curse."